I mentioned at the bottom of my last post that there would be more to follow re positivity. And here it is: I’m proposing a monthly challenge to help you (and me!) be more positive in 2018.
Basically, as I’ve been harping on about for a few weeks now, for the sake of my mental wellbeing I need to bring back Thankful Thursday in some form. I’m not naturally the most positive person, in fact I’m susceptible to anxiety and depression. Through being actively grateful, I’ve mostly overcome that in the last few years, which is huge for me. But rather than reviving something that’s only truly meaningful to myself (and perhaps my nearest and dearest), I was keen to find a way of making Thankful Thursday – or its replacement – more relevant to you guys, too.
I’ve recently quit all my series because I lost passion for them – but I’m excited about this; I’m excited for myself – but I’m more excited to see whether my belief holds true for others:
Actively being grateful for the little things improves positivity.
BUT – and it’s quite a big but – I want to go a step further. I want to make my new improved series for 2018 effect even more, even bigger, even BETTER change.
My Positivity Project
Well, I started putting some mini challenges together, and then I got my lovely friend Mim to give me her opinion, ie. be blunt and tell me if my idea was shite. But she didn’t – quite the opposite. She pointed out that there was a theme (inadvertent) to my challenges. According to Mim they not only encourage positivity – they also promote bravery. I LOVE that.
I’m not always brave and have often passed up opportunities in my life through fear. Without even realising it my challenges were designed to make me face those fears and be courageous, which in turn will empower and help me to be more positive.
I’m not ashamed to tell you I was a little bit proud of what I’d come up with whilst brainstorming.
In fact – and here’s the most exciting bit – Mim was keen to come on board to collaborate. (In case you don’t know, she’s kind of a big deal, and she doesn’t really know it but I’m a little bit in awe of her blogging achievements.)
To say I’m thrilled is an understatement, because if Mim is on board then that gives me faith that you guys will hopefully join us too.
My reasons for starting this completely free project are outlined above; Mim’s are different – and yours may be different again. You might want to get involved because you’ve lost your sense of self since becoming a parent; or because you’re lonely and looking to connect; perhaps you’re suffering with PND or anxiety. Or maybe you simply believe in always striving for self-improvement.
We want to create a small but awesome community to celebrate our successes and build on those; to put right those little niggles which hold us back in some way; and to essentially find our own way – together – to increase our bravery, and ultimately, our positivity.
Sound good? Great; here’s how it will work…
Be More Positive in 2018 and Beyond
On the first of each month of 2018, we’ll set two small challenges to be achieved by the end of the month; one will be focused on positivity, and the other on bravery. And don’t worry, we’re not expecting anything of you that we won’t also be doing ourselves – we’re in this together!
If that sounds daunting or like too much work, don’t be put off – the payoff is totally worth the small effort. I promise that off the back of Thankful Thursday, I was able to improve my whole mindset and wellbeing; in the months since I’ve stopped, I’ve noticed old ways creeping back in which are not good for me or my family.
The monthly challenges are designed to help keep focus on new habits which have the power to transform your outlook on life. And who wouldn’t make the choice to be more positive?
Going forward I won’t be writing Thankful Thursday in the same way. Instead, I’ll be replacing it with My Positivity Project, where I’ll be catching you up on how I got on with the two challenges from the previous month, and sharing some of your stories too if you’d like.
Mim and I are also inviting you to join the My Positivity Project Facebook group, to chat and support one another, to meet like-minded folk and, if you like, buddy up. Buddy systems provide accountability; they serve a purpose. However we won’t spout any of that ‘you’re only cheating yourself’ nonsense if you miss a deadline: you can pick this back up when it suits you. The deadlines exist not to become yet another source of stress in an already-too-busy life, but to help you keep focus and, in theory, not lose momentum.
Our objective is to bring positivity and increased wellbeing into the lives of all who take part, and we recognise that rigid deadlines will destroy the essence of those goals.
As an example, we’ve missed the perfect start point of January 1st for our project (oops!), and here’s why: we’re mums too. Like all you real mums (and dads if we have any men on board!), we are imperfect and not quite as organised as we’d like to be – and sometimes our best ideas come in the middle of the night, a week too late!
That is the point of this project: I could have shelved it…but instead I’m teaming up with a friend to make it the best I can – albeit a week later than is ideal.
So, we’d be privileged if you’d join us in our mission, and to do so couldn’t be simpler. Sign up below and you’ll receive the monthly challenges to get involved. You can also document any positive moments throughout your month over on Instagram, using the hashtag #mypositivityproject.
We can’t wait to have you on board and collectively discover our own personal sunshine!