If you follow my Facebook page, you’ll have noticed me sharing some hugely inspiring posts by an insightful and whip-smart blogger. At just 25, she’s not only hilarious, she also demonstrates incredible wisdom. The woman exudes ‘cool’ and she is very much a rising star. Today I’m delighted and privileged to be sharing my interview with Gylisa Jayne.
1. Tell us about yourself/how you got into blogging…
I’m 25 and a first time mother to Lily who is now 2. I live in beautiful Cornwall, with my soul mate, Ryan…
I began blogging because I was saying all this stuff anyway, and my mates, and friends of friends would tell me it was funny, or thought provoking or what they needed to hear….
One of them suggested blogging, so after a bit of umming and ahhing- I started my page ….and that was that!
2. Tell us about your parenting style…
I am completely Lily-led. I struggled at the start with worrying about what everyone was telling me – it felt like any way I chose was the ‘wrong’ way, and it was only after a few months of trusting my instincts and seeing the results that I found confidence in my own ability.
I advocate for gentle parenting everyday of the week, and I want to show other people that we are raising real people, not babies from a book.
3. Would you describe yourself as a feminist. Why?
I feel like you can either be a feminist, or a sexist. There’s no middle ground. You either want equality for all, or you are indifferent to the hardships of someone else. Which makes you an Arsehole.
I’ve always felt strongly about feminism, but even more so as a Mother, because it’s opened my eyes to so many gender roles that hurt both men and women.
So yes, I am absolutely a feminist, and I’m proud to say so.
4. What’s your favourite thing about blogging?
It’s exciting going viral, and it’s exciting when people make me feel like I’m a ‘somebody’.
But honestly, there’s private moments where a woman will message me not expecting a reply, and she lets me into her world for a moment and shares her thoughts and feelings about whatever she’s going through. And we will really, properly connect for an hour or two.
My inbox varies from asking about hair colour, to a recent miscarriage. From eBay finds to grief. It’s so raw, but I’ll stop whatever I’m doing to reply to a message, especially if I can see they need that metaphorical hand hold. It’s an honour, to be trusted with such sensitive chapters of people’s lives.
That is the most precious part of blogging, and I feel everything they go through like it’s my own life.
5. Have you been surprised by your success?
Yes. I never ever expected anyone but my mum to ‘like’ my posts. ( even the ones about sex ?) when I started last year I basically forced my friends on Facebook to follow me, and now they’ll tag me in newspaper threads they see me in. It’s bizarre!
6. What’s been your proudest moment?
There’s two. The first was when I could google myself and it didn’t say ‘ did you mean ‘Melissa’?
And the second was when I got a message from a man, who told me I’d saved his wife’s life. He said he’d shown her a couple of posts of mine, and it was the first step to her recovery from serious PND.
She’d realised she wasn’t alone and I realised the power of honesty.
7. Who would you love to collaborate with, and why?
I don’t know ! ?
8. Do you have any blogging heroes? If so who? And why?
I don’t know her bloggers real name but the lady that writes for ‘Growing a Human’ (she had her daughter as a teen, and writes in a sort of diary style, it’s wicked).
She’s quite new, she doesn’t know I love her ( I don’t think !) but her writing style is fabulous and I really enjoy her posts. I feel that she will be a big success in a years time. Id love to pick her brain for a bit.
9. Where do you see your blog in five years, what do you hope to achieve ?
Oh who knows. I don’t even know what I’m doing with this one! I’d like to just go with the flow, and by next year at least, to have finally finished the book that everyone’s been asking for! After that, we will see ! 🙂
10. Do you have a mission statement, or philosophy for your blog ?
Ummmmm…. I guess my raison d’êtré is that i wanted to be the person that I’d needed myself.
I didn’t want to pretend that motherhood was wonderful, I didn’t want to pretend that buying all the latest gear was making me happy. I didn’t want to have a glossy perfect snapshot of adult life, because those blogs and that mindset was hurting me.
I just wanted someone to be saying it how it was, and then I figured – well why not be that someone?
With many thanks Gylisa for agreeing to feature! For more of this fantastic woman’s wit and insight, be sure to follow her over on Facebook – you won’t regret it.