With this new series, my intention is to help foster and nurture an open and profound bond between father and daughter, one that transcends the awkwardness of puberty. (I wrote about it in more detail here.)

And in that spirit, I’ve agreed that once a week I will answer – honestly – any question my husband puts to me.

So, here’s what hubby has come up with for me this week…

Hubby: I don’t know why I didn’t ask about this sooner! This is something that has puzzled and intrigued us fellas since the dawn of time… Why can’t women visit the loo solo? And you’re always gone ages – what exactly is it you’re doing in there?

Me: Is nothing sacred?! Why do women go to the loo in pairs? Okay, here it is: in a revelation which will have women the world over furious that our secret has been outed rejoicing that the truth has been revealed…

To have a massive snog and feel each other up.

If that’s what some silly fools think – or hope more likely – to be the actuality, then I’m sorry to disappoint – but they’re about to be disillusioned. In fact, we go together for several far less exciting reasons, dependent upon the circumstances:


  1. Dinner with the Neighbours

To escape the tedious hell of football/car/work talk.


  1. Double Dates

To plot/strategize/muse/deliberate. Yes, alright, essentially it’s to gossip.


  1. Girls’ Night Out

A lone female is an easy mark for drunken buffoons. But as we all know, there’s safety in numbers:

It’s a well-established fact that a pack of women is a thing to be admired and revered.


  1. All of the Above
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Sometimes it’s genuinely the only opportunity we have for a bit of quality girl time with our bestie/s.


So, I’m sorry to be the bearer of a slightly less beguiling reality than your enigmatic imaginings! While I’d love to be able to tell you that it’s where we ride unicorns and do our Jedi training for that inexplicable phenomena known as Female Intuition – it’s just not the case.

Like this? You can check out more of my hubby’s ponderings (and my attempts to answer them) here.



An award-nominated blogger and author, Kate is an experienced breastfeeding advocate, and expert baby sleep chaser. Her writing has appeared on Mothercare, Huff Post, and BritMums.


  1. Ha ha good question! I LOVE having a “loo mate” when I go out – I have no good reason why, it’s just nice to have someone to go with isn’t it 🙂 x x

    • Kate Reply

      Exactly! We all do it, do you think I answered accurately as to why?! Xx

    • Kate Reply

      Ah, thank you! Glad you enjoyed it, thanks for commenting.

  2. justsayingmum Reply

    Oh for a good girly catch up and gossip for sure … great idea though for posts – looking forward to the next question #BloggerClubUK

    • Kate Reply

      Thanks, glad you liked it! This is week 10 so already plenty more where this came from! ?

  3. Kate Reply

    Haha, it is a little strange if you think about it. (But I think you’re in the minority!)

  4. Kate Reply

    Haha, I guess it’s not for everyone! Ah, I did RT for #BloggerClubUK’s new rule! Am sure you acknowledged it though, but equally possible I may be going senile! ?

  5. Kate Reply

    Haha, how funny! And yes, I know that well – I usually have my daughter perched on my knee!

  6. Kate Reply

    To each their own I guess! Thanks for commenting! ☺

  7. Kate Reply

    God, that’s a step too far, surely?! Inviting trouble if you ask me…

  8. Amy @ Mr and Mrs T Plus Three Reply

    This is a good one, I once unwittingly went to the loo with a girl I had just met in a club, she bought me a rose 5 minutes before (!) and of course me being me thought she was just being friendly…suffice to say what almost happened in that loo was not dissimilar to your opening statement until the penny dropped for me and I had to talk my way out of it haha! xxx

  9. Silly Mummy Reply

    Haha – I would actually have been with your husband in asking this! I have never done it or understood why people do! But I’m a real introvert – I like my personal space! #coolmumclub

    • Kate Reply

      Quite a few have said this now! Perhaps it’s a dying ‘thing’. I definitely did it more when I was young and in a club environment, it’s not quite the same in a restaurant!

  10. Kate Reply

    Yes, I think I would too – not that I expect that will feature as a concern in my life for the foreseeable future, haha! X

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