81 Couples Journal Prompts – How To Grow Your Relationship

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How Journaling Can Support a Healthy Relationship

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Journaling as a couple can grow a committed relationship.

Journaling can be a great way to open your mind, grow in life, and even foster deeper connections with others. Whether you’re a complete beginner, or it’s something you’ve already tried alone, journaling is a powerful tool for a strong relationship.

Whether you’re looking to learn about how to start journaling or you’re experienced and ready to dive in with your partner, journaling as a couple can grow your relationship and cause you to feel even closer to and more in love with your partner.

Benefits of Journaling Prompts For Relationships

How to Keep a Marriage Journal or Couple’s Journal

These 81 couple’s journal prompts will help you learn more about your partner and cultivate a strong and successful relationship and take your love story to the next level.

Block out time to discuss any issues that are raised during your journaling sessions.

If you’re unsure of the best way to get started, here are a few tips to help:

1. Complete one or more relationship journal writing prompts when you’re feeling the need for closeness with your love. Alternatively, make it a daily habit to really feel the benefit of regular journaling. There’s no right or wrong way – just do what feels good.
2. Use a shared journal with sections for each of you to write in, your own individual ones, or even both! Your journal should be a safe space, but it can also be useful to use a common notebook for shared journal entries.
3. Block out time to discuss and resolve any relationship issues that are raised during your journaling sessions.
4. If any serious concerns are uncovered, consider relationship counselling for professional help.

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81 Powerful Couple’s Journaling Prompts

Try this mix of fun topics and more serious couples journal prompts and journal questions as one of the best ways to invest in a long-term romantic relationship with your loved one:

1. What three qualities are you most grateful for in your partner? 
2. If you could visit any city in the world with your partner, where would you go? Create a couples bucket list with your partner for future holidays.
3. What is your favorite trip that you have taken together, and why? 
4. What great adventures do you foresee taking together in your future? Does your partner agree?
5. What are five things you each want to work on together in the next five years to grow your relationship? 
6. Are there any lessons you have learned from being together? How did these lessons impact your life? 
7. What is your favorite memory from your relationship? 
8. Is there anything you would change about the way things were in the past? 

9. What are three relationship tools you can use during arguments? 
10. Who are your favorite people in your partner’s life, and why? 
11. If you could fix one thing for your partner, what would it be, and why? 
12. In what ways does your partner make you a better person?
13. What are three songs that remind you of your partner, and why? 
14. What is your favorite type of movie or TV show to watch with your partner? 
15. If you could grant your partner three wishes, what would they ask for (in your opinion)? 
16. What are 5 things you love about your partner’s body? And what are their 5 best traits? 
17. If you had to name your two favorite things about your partner, what would they be? 
18. I’ve never been prouder of my partner than the time they…
19. The top three things that inspire me about my partner are… 
20. What are the top three things that you wish your partner knew about themselves?

9. If you could buy your partner any gift in the world without worrying about the cost, what would it be?
10. What are your partner’s favorite meals? 
11. List 20 reasons why you love your partner. 
12. What are examples of dream date nights with your partner?

Valuable Couple Journal Prompts For Relationships

25. If you could change one of your partner’s opinions, which one would it be? Why?
26. What things are deal breakers for you in your relationship? Does your partner feel the same way?
27. What is your favorite thing about the day/night that you met your partner? 
28. How would yo describe your current relationship status?
29. If you are married, what are your plans for the next five years of marriage? 

29. Do you and your partner have any recurring / unresolved conflicts in your relationship? Do you agree about what they are? Write each other positive love letters, avoiding blame or accusations, about how you could work through these issues together.
30. How can your partner help you feel safer together? 

32. What are your core values? Do they match your partner’s? Are there any glaring discrepancies? How do you deal with these?
33. What is your love language? (Gift giving, physical touch, quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation.) What is your partner’s love language?

34. What little things make you feel most loved by your partner? 
35. What worries you most about your relationship? 
36. Would your childhood self be proud of the you that you are today? Why or why not? 
37. What is one piece of relationship advice that has always stuck with you? 
38. What is the most important lesson you’ve learned from watching a loving relationship close to you? 
39. What are your opinions on having children? 
40. Are your mutual relationships with your in-laws positive or negative? How could they be improved? 
41. What makes you feel butterflies in your relationship? 
42. What is your greatest challenge in life, and how does your partner support you with this?
43. What do you want less of in your relationship? 
44. What is your communication style? 

45. Do you know your attachment style? Write about how your attachment style came to be and compare it to your partner’s.
46. What is your opinion on monogamy or polyamory? Does your partner agree?
47. What would you most love if your partner did for you? 
48. What positive things do you and your partner do together and separately that contribute to your personal and collective wellbeing?
49. How have you changed since the beginning of your relationship? 
50. How long do you hope to be together?

Relationship Writing Prompts For a Stronger Bond

51. Are you confident about openly discussing your physical intimacy with your partner so that it can be mutually satisfying? If not, why not? Think about how it could be improved for you, and if you’re not comfortable discussing it with your partner, write them an unconventional love letter about it instead.

52. Is there anything you would change about your sex life if you could? 
53. Each make a list of your sexual desires / fantasies. Would you be comfortable sharing these with your partner? Why / why not?
54. If you’re not married or engaged, what would you like the proposal to look like? 
55. If you do not have a home together yet, how do you want to decorate your home? How do you want it to look? 
56. What is your favorite memory about a family outing you had? 
57. What significant thing have you learned about your partner since starting to date them? 
58. Do you have any secrets you haven’t told your partner yet? 
59. What habits do you wish your partner would change? What about your own habits? 
60. Do you have a healthy balance of doing things together, apart, and with close friends as a couple? Do you both agree?

61. How important is religion or spirituality to you in a relationship? And to your partner? 
62. Independently write about your hopes and dreams for retirement, and compare your list with your partner’s. Is there anything you need to discuss here?
63. What qualities do you and your partner most value in yourselves and each other? Why?
64. Do you like spending time alone, or do you prefer to be around your partner all of the time? 
65. If your physical health were to suffer and you became unable to care for yourself, what would you want your partner to do? 
66. If your partner became unable to care for him/herself, what would they like to do?
67. What are each of your wishes for when you die? Have a frank face to face conversation with your partner, ensuring they are aware of yours and asking them about their own.

More Couples Journal Questions

68. Do you want more children? More pets? 
69. How do past relationships impact on your current relationship?
70. What are some things that you and your partner struggle with together or apart? 
71. How would your life be different now if you had never started dating your partner? 
72. What are your favorite hobbies to do together? 
73. What’s a project you’d like to finish or start with your partner? 
74. What is your favorite outside place to go with your partner?
75. What is your favorite type of event to visit with your partner, and why? 
76. How do you feel about your partner’s occupation and how do you support each other’s career goals?
77. hobby does your partner have that doesn’t interest you personally? How much time do you spend supporting them with this anyway?

78. What is your definition of ‘cheating’? Is this something you’ve discussed and agreed on? If not, make this conversation a priority for your relationship.
79. Do you like your partner’s closest friends? 
80. Write about the first time you shared a kiss and how it made you feel.
81. Is there any area of your life where you don’t feel supported by your partner? Write them a positive letter explaining how this makes you feel, avoiding blame and accusations and suggesting different ways you could work on it together so you feel better.

Why You Should Try Relationship Journal Prompts

There are many reasons to turn to journaling in your relationship, whether or not you have any specific issues to address. Happy couples are generally those who are able to tackle difficult times and issues together, to create positive change and form close relationships with their partners.

In fact, according to one study, journaling about your relationship was found to be a predictor of long-term relationship stability¹. 

Journaling promotes a deep emotional connection with your partner.

While research is inconclusive in terms of correlation vs causality, an undeniable link exists between quality of communication and relationship satisfaction².

Other benefits and new skills include:

• Developing self-awareness
• Identifying and analysing thoughts and emotions
• Processing your deepest feelings, to improve emotional and mental health
• Identifying and challenging negative thoughts and patterns
• Improved communication skills for difficult conversations
• Deeper understanding of yourself and your partner
• Promoting a deeper connection with your partner
• Building the kind of relationship you both want with each other
• Identifying a toxic relationship or behaviours which may be red flags for you
• Learning what you want from future relationships or a potential partner

With so many advantages, developing a journaling practice is an excellent opportunity to work on personal growth and strengthening the dynamics of our current relationships.

And journaling prompts for relationships can also be helpful in the dynamics of our relationships with others too, for example with family members or a best friend.

Other Couple Journal Ideas

Also keep in mind that couples’ journal ideas don’t just have to be serious.

They can also make great conversation starters for a first date, be a fun way to record the details of special occasions and special memories, or be a place to keep track of favorite moments or a wish list.

We hope you enjoy these journal ideas for how to grow your relationship with your partner. If you’d like to check out some more how-to topics, head on over to BetterHelp’s advice column here: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/how-to/. 

Sources

1. Slatcher, Richard & Pennebaker, James. (2006). How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count the Words The Social Effects of Expressive Writing. Psychological science. 17. 660-4. DOI: 10.1111/j.1467-9280.2006.01762.x. 
2. Lavner JA, Karney BR, Bradbury TN. Does Couples’ Communication Predict Marital Satisfaction, or Does Marital Satisfaction Predict Communication? J Marriage Fam. 2016 Jun 1;78(3):680-694. doi: 10.1111/jomf.12301. Epub 2016 Mar 22. PMID: 27152050; PMCID: PMC4852543.

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