Self development and self improvement are the best ways to achieve a content and happy life – without changing your circumstances. These personal development topics will help you to accomplish calm, balance, and inner peace.

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The Importance of Self Development and Self Improvement

Creating the best possible home environment for our family is my ultimate goal in life. My greatest ambition is for my girls to grow up and recount their childhood as calm and joyful, stable and with a focus on wellbeing and positivity.

For me, that means a commitment to ongoing self development and self improvement. 

The Role of Personal Growth in Family Wellness

They say ‘mum sets the tone in the home’, and I completely buy into that – which is why it’s so important that I take care of my own mental health and wellbeing in order that I can provide what our family needs too.

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What is Wellbeing?

For me, wellbeing is multi-faceted. It means taking care of yourself in all ways, including your emotional, mental, and physical health. To feel content it’s important not to neglect any of these areas of your life. 

Naturally, when you’re a mum to small children it’s not always practical to take time out for yourself – which kind of makes it all the more important! Especially since wellbeing and positivity go hand in hand, and without meeting your own needs, it’s difficult to embrace positivity. 

So, while lack of time, sleep, and autonomy can be incredibly draining, something I found helped me was taking ownership of and responsibility for my own wellbeing and positivity:

Happiness is a choice; positivity is a mindset; gratitude is the path to both.

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What is Self-Development and Self-Improvement?

Self development and self improvement involve exercises that encourage us to become more self-aware and allow us to recognise and heal from old or enduring wounds.

The concept is that in actively working on these areas and employing positive strategies, we can enhance our experience of life.

It’s not (necessarily) about making fundamental changes to circumstances, but more about learning to reframe. By appreciating the good we have around us and choosing to focus on those things rather than what we perceive to be missing, our lives become enriched.

With a simple shift in mindset, we find ourselves becoming more positive, grateful, and ultimately more fulfilled.

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Self Development and Emotional Wellbeing

Personal growth and emotional wellbeing go hand in hand. The reality is, we are all works in progress; our growth is never ‘finished’ and our emotional wellbeing is dynamic.

This is why it’s important to think about self improvement as a longterm strategy. It’s not enough simply to work through a single activity and say you’re done – even if old issues are resolved, new ones can crop up.

By committing to ongoing personal growth, you’re selecting a lifestyle which facilitates and underpins your emotional wellbeing not just today, but in the future too.

I’ve never been more aware of the truth of this idea than when watching my daughter grappling with strong emotions. 

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It’s so clear that when she’s having a hard time, the moment has passed and it’s too late to use any specific strategy to bring her immediate calm and relief – by this point she has to be allowed to feel those big feelings and work all the way through them.

If I want to help her to become more resilient, we need to put the work in when she’s in a relaxed frame of mind. That’s when it’s beneficial to spend the time cultivating tools and techniques that she can draw on the next occasion she’s struggling with frustrations, etc.

The same goes for adults; if we put the work in to establish a better baseline of positivity and wellbeing, we’ll hone and refine our coping skills for life’s inevitable difficulties, whatever they may be.

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Personal Development Topics

I’ve written about a host of different subjects regarding self development and personal growth, including:

  • Self-care
  • Forgiveness
  • Journaling
  • Shadow work
  • Inner child healing
  • Gratitude
  • Nurturing a positivity mindset
  • Yoga
  • Happy hormones
  • Kindness
  • The importance of values
  • Slow living

Ideas for Self-Care 

If you’re looking for self-care inspiration, why not check out this checklist and ideas for self-care, or these 50 Sunday self-care suggestions?

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If anything in life can hold you back from a living a harmonious life, it’s keeping resentment and bitterness as your constant companions.

Read about how to forgive, and why it’s so important for your wellbeing.

Journaling for Mental Health

I’ve written lots about the benefits of journaling for your mental wellbeing. Check out my master post of journaling ideas for inspiration and tips to get started.

Inner Child Healing

If you experienced trauma in childhood, actively spending time on inner child work, working through those issues with reparenting exercises or inner child meditation will be enormously valuable for you going forward.

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Learning to appreciate the good in your life through reframing is the single most powerful way to increase your happiness – without changing your circumstances.

Nurturing a Positivity Mindset

Always seeking out the silver lining is a valuable skill that anyone can learn. Changing your default mindset to a positive one can completely change the way you experience the world, for the better.

Read more about positive living.

Yoga for Wellbeing

A fabulous way to combine physical activity with mindfulness! As a self improvement technique, try yoga for wellbeing to enjoy mindful movement.

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Shadow Work

Shadow work is tough and intense, but an incredibly effective technique for deep personal growth. 

Read about how to do shadow work journaling, and then try these 50 shadow work questions to get you started.

Happy Hormones

Our hormones can have an enormous impact on our emotional wellbeing. Read about how you can hack your happy hormones to increase your positivity and improve your outlook. 

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Is there anything more valuable in life than kindness? It’s certainly up there isn’t it!

While children can be incredibly behind, it often requires them first to develop empathy which tends to occur around five or six years old.

Read my post about kindness activities for kids.

Lived Values

Reviewing your lived values versus your true values is vital if something feels ‘off’. When there’s am mismatch this can be the cause of internal conflict and prevent you from feeling fulfilled.

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Slow Living

Living slowly can be a wonderful way to achieve a greater sense of balance and peacefulness.

Each of these topics addresses a different but fundamentally important aspect of self development and self improvement, to help you live a life of harmony and fulfilment.

An award-nominated blogger and author, Kate is a huge advocate of personal growth, focusing on journaling to increase positivity and facilitate mindful motherhood. With a wealth of experience in breastfeeding and CMPA, Kate is also an expert baby sleep chaser. Her writing has appeared on Mothercare, Huff Post, and BritMums.

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