[I was gifted the sunglasses featured in this post. Contains affiliate links.] The end of March 2019 sees Mother’s Day in the UK fall on the same date as daylight saving which, for those of us with small children is, frankly, some kind of sick joke. With that in mind I thought I’d suggest some ways of lessening the inevitable stress. Do you need inspiration for a relaxing me-time idea? Self care is essential to wellbeing and comes in many forms; if it makes you feel good then you should make it a priority from time to time – and definitely this Mother’s Day – the year it’s combined with destroying our kids’ sleep! (Seriously, who thought this was acceptable?!)
Being a mum to small children means it’s not always practical to indulge in self-care, but there are many ways of doing so – it’s about being creative and snatching those moments where you can!
Sometimes it takes a little more planning – or even a lot. Not all of the following ideas will be possible for everyone, but some of the suggestions should be possible for everyone – and the others are ones to look forward to in the future, as your babies grow.
Need Inspiration for a Pampering Idea? Self Care For Her
A Bath, With a Glass of Wine and a Good Book
Over the past year, since Elfin has become a little less dependent on me (little being the operative word – she’s my mini cling-on!), Dan has got very good at coming home from work and sending me for a bath. Not everybody will be in the position to do this and there are times I could really use the break that it’s just not possible (when one of the girls is unwell for example); but on those occasions it does happen, it’s soooo welcome and the hour alone really helps me to recharge.
It’s simple – but it means the world.
A Massage or Other Treatment
For my birthday recently Dan treated me to a massage.
It’s something I’d never do for myself because I just can’t justify spending that money on myself – but I’m beginning to think that occasionally I should.
I get it, a spa treatment may seem extravagant – but maintaining your wellbeing is not. So if you desperately need to unwind and a massage would help you with that – and you can comfortably afford it – then there’s really no reason not to.
A Peaceful Walk or a Swim
For those who may not be in the fortunate position of being able to justify visiting a salon, going somewhere tranquil to get some fresh air can be just as restorative. I always feel better after immersing myself in nature and luxuriating in the solitude of a walk alone – not that it happens very often of course!
I also enjoy a swim by myself, during which I can retreat from the world for a little while and not think about anything beyond how many lengths I’ve achieved. Getting the blood pumping is one of the best things you can do for your state of mind.
A Material Item, Just For You
Yes, it’s shallow. Yes, it goes against my new perspective on ‘stuff’, namely that it’s wasteful and bad for the planet. Yet a little bit of what you fancy, just from time to time, is no bad thing. Particularly if you tend to go without, rarely spending money on yourself because your partner or children always come in front of you.
If there’s something you’ve been coveting and you’ve saved up to afford it then why not actually treat yourself, rather than seeing the pennies tot up – and then spending them (yet again) on the kids? They definitely don’t need more stuff (in our house at least!).
But perhaps, for once, it would be wonderful for your soul.
I’ve long yearned for a pair of dazzling shades, and I was delighted to recently receive these gorgeous Chloe sunglasses to feature in this post. I lurve oversized sunnies, and because I’d never splurge on them for myself, I consider them a real treat which I’ll treasure! I would, however, allow myself a new lippie or nail varnish to make myself feel fabulous.
A Romantic Date
Dan and I have started making extra effort to make time for dates again.
It’s amazing how prioritising time for your relationship can lead to a greater sense of wellbeing permeating all aspects of life.
Spending quality time together, remembering the reasons we chose to live and procreate together, rediscovering our love and friendship, and – perhaps most importantly – our shared sense of humour, has re-cemented our family.
Instead of defaulting to stress and irritation when the girls act up, we’re better able to diffuse the tension with fun and laughter. It doesn’t always work, but it’s true that mum sets the tone of the home; feeling happy in my marriage unquestionably improves my mood and resilience in the face of small people who, on a bad day, are hellbent on breaking me.
Dinner With Friends
Sometimes, only good food and giggles with your girlfriends will suffice. I find wine or fizz can help too.
It’s taken a good 18 months to get to a point where I feel I can go out for an evening, but now Elfin will actually sleep when she goes to bed, I’m taking full advantage!
Reaffirming friendships (and making new ones) is also a way of rediscovering myself after a long period of being Mummy, and little else.
However you choose to pamper yourself this Mother’s Day, be good to yourself – you’re worth it!