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Parenting

My fabulous daughters, lights of my life, are a precocious handful. For anybody with small children – ’nuff said! On this page you’ll find some of the most important links from my parenting archives, however if you’re looking for something specific, you can always try using the search box at the top of the page.

There are no qualifications to be a parent. Instead there are badges of honour, of which I have many.

I fancy myself as a Girl Guide: Bodily Functions badges – I have them all; Sleep Deprivation* – nailed it; Terrible Twos – tick, tick, tick. I’m not looking forward to the rites of passage that will see me awarded my Bullying and Boyfriends badges, but hopefully I have a few years reprieve before they’re due!

*If you’re desperate for help with getting more sleep without attempting any kind of sleep training (not my bag – I quizzed Jo Frost about controlled crying and wasn’t convinced), then check this post out: My Secret to Getting More Zzz’s When You Live With a Sleep Thief

Seeing that in print, I think parents can actually be compared more closely with freaking superheroes than Guides (or, in the interest of equality, Scouts). And superheroes or not, mums are basically Jedis, which is arguably more impressive anyway. Curious as to how I can make such a bold claim? Read this.

Being a parent is everything I ever imagined, to the power of ten.

I Wish I Had More Help With My Baby

A traumatic delivery made life very difficult for a while after Pixie was born, and I’ve been left with ongoing anxiety. But I have, for the most part, found a way to manage it. Part of my tonic is this blog, where I share the ups and downs and what has and has not worked for me.

I’ve discovered that a positive labour is possible after a traumatic delivery – and that it can be very healing. I’ve also had some very bleak times since Elfin arrived, feeling overwhelmed with life when she was diagnosed with CMPA, and desperate for more help with my baby. Suffice to say, colic is a bitch.

But for the most part, I’ve felt incredibly grateful and completely in love with my girls.

I’ve blogged about people’s opinions about when I should have a second baby (still one of my popular posts ever), my subsequent pregnancy, and some of the products that have helped me cope with lack of sleep. I know these will be sacred, so to make life as simple as possible, you may wish to check these out:

Sleepyhead Grand Baby Pod

There’s a plethora of posts that will hopefully help you find your way if you’re expecting. Here are some useful links:

I’ve included some of the links that I expect will be most important here, but if you’ve not found what you’re looking for, try using the search box at the top of the page.