Do you sometimes find yourself stuck in a negative chain of thoughts, and unsure how to break the cycle? Or perhaps you have a preconceived idea that if only x, y, or z would happen, then you could be more positive and happy. Well, it’s a common enough misconception – but the good news is that actually, you are responsible for your own happiness; happiness is a choice. And by looking to the habits of positive people, you can achieve a positive mental attitude with a sunnier and more optimistic outlook, as soon as you’re ready to start trying.

You Are Responsible For Your Own Happiness

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You are responsible for your own happiness. Positive mental attitude | Surround yourself with positive people. Image shows a group of young adults jumping for joy.

While this may sound a little intimidating, it shouldn’t. The purpose of this statement is to galvanise you to believe that you hold the power to change your fate, if you wish to. If you’re not happy with your current circumstances, it’s up to you to change them.

Having said that, one of the best ways to become more positive, is to spend time with people who are naturally positive – or have worked hard to become so!

Why You Should Surround Yourself With Positive People

Positive people have positive mental attitude, and it’s impossible not to be positively influenced by them; in the same way that negative people are draining and bring you down, the optimism of positive people is infectious.

You could say that surrounding yourself with positive people is a form of self-care.

What Is a Positive Mental Attitude?

A positive mental attitude describes a person’s natural bias towards glass-half-full mindset. It’s looking for the best in every situation, and believing that every cloud has a silver lining if you’re open to that outlook and prepared to find it. It’s refusing to dwell on the negatives we all experience in life, instead focusing in the good; resisting self-pity, and practicing gratitude; rebuffing pessimism and embracing optimism.

Why You Should Surround Yourself With Positive People

1. Positive people understand that a positive mental attitude is different to happiness

We all have bad days – all of us. But the special thing about positive people is that they believe it will get better, and that’s what they choose to focus on. Instead of wallowing they look for the positives in their situation and how they might be able to improve it – which often leads to happiness.

Woman with arms outstretched to the sky, and demonstrating a positive mental attitude.

By the way, it’s fine to have a good cry or indulge yourself in feeling shitty sometimes – for a bit. But not for too long. 

2. They know that happiness is a choice

This may sound simplistic, but while making the choice is simple, that doesn’t mean it’s easy.

Happiness is a choice; positivity is a mindset; gratitude is the path to both.

Even those who’ve been raised around negativity and have been influenced by it can change their disposition to a more positive one; it just takes some practice…

3. Positive People Practice Gratitude – and Self-Care

Behind the scenes you’ll find that those with a sunny perspective on life often work at maintaining their optimism, and the best way to attain and retain a positive attitude is to practice gratitude. It may not come naturally to begin with, but the more you do it the easier it becomes – and the more it fosters positivity. 

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Writing gratitude lists can be incredibly powerful.

Likewise, positive people also appreciate that you can’t pour from an empty cup – we can’t expect to feel positive whilst neglecting our own basic needs, so self-care is extremely valuable in the quest for a more positive and fulfilled life.

If this is something you’d like to begin working on, why not treat yourself or somebody who deserves a little pick me up to our beautiful wellbeing journal, complete with four mini self-care gifts?

Packed full of gratitude lists, colouring pages, and other activities to promote positivity, and endorsed by This Morning’s resident psychologist, Emma Kenny.

4. Positive People Are Experts at Reframing

Positive individuals are excellent at taking responsibility for their own happiness. Once a person accepts that their outlook and mood is largely in their own hands, they’re empowered to take the required steps to be more positive. Reframing is a very powerful tool in this process.

5. Positive People Choose to Give the Benefit of the Doubt and Avoid Judgement

Positive people tend to assume the best of people, until they’re given a reason not to.

While often slow to judge, they’re also able to recognise and acknowledge when they do, analyse why, and commit to learning a lesson from their experience.

None of us are perfect – even the most positive people in the world make mistakes. But instead of being closed off, critically, they’re also open and willing to learn and improve.

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Wand to adopt a positive mental attitude? Surround yourself with positive people!

6. Positive People Are Self-Aware

Self-awareness is simply having a deep understanding of yourself, particularly what drives your emotions, thoughts, and behaviours – and it can be incredibly powerful. It can help you to identify triggers for negative thoughts and feelings, and eliminate them before they become problematic…

7. A Positive Person Understands the Difference Between Quitting and Letting Go

Sometimes the wisest thing to do is accept that a situation – or even a person – is bad for our mental health. That’s not quitting, it’s self-preservation – and it’s not only okay, it’s vital for our wellbeing and positivity.

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You are responsible for your own happiness; happiness is a choice – and sometimes letting go will help you to maintain positivity.

8. Positive People’s Self-Worth Does Not Come From Outside Validation

Positive people appreciate the value in the idiom:

Other peoples’ opinions of you are none of your business.

It’s a tough one to wrap your head around, but when you do, it’s incredibly liberating. If you can go to bed at night with a clear conscience, that must be enough. 

And if you can’t, you know there’s work to be done…

9. Positive People Are Masters in Forgiveness

Repeat after me: forgiveness is not about exoneration; it’s about freeing yourself from bitterness, so that you can move on truly, and freely.

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10. Positive People Do Not Compare

Comparison is the thief of joy. 

If you are struggling here, go back to practicing gratitude for a while and remembering what wonderful things you have in your life to be grateful for. This will naturally lead on to reframing, and your mindset will begin to shift towards a more positive outlook.

11. Positive People Want Others to Do Well and Be Happy

And finally, only miserable people don’t wish the best for others!

While none of these things are great secrets, along with the knowledge that your happiness is your own responsibility, they can be difficult life lessons to learn and accept, and even harder to live by. That’s why journaling is so incredibly powerful – it helps to keep you laser-focused in terms of self-awareness, and facilitates the process of analysis and self-improvement. 

Ultimately, it can help to being peace to an otherwise chaotic life.

An award-nominated blogger and author, Kate is a huge advocate of personal growth, focusing on journaling to increase positivity and facilitate mindful motherhood. With a wealth of experience in breastfeeding and CMPA, Kate is also an expert baby sleep chaser. Her writing has appeared on Mothercare, Huff Post, and BritMums.

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