As I write, it’s been in the news as recently as this week that maternity discrimination is a huge problem in Britain. Sadly, pregnancy discrimination appears to be equally rife. In the year 2015, when legislation has been implemented to prevent either from occurring, this is not only ridiculous and unpalatable – it’s also illegal.
Maternity and Pregnancy Discrimination are Unacceptable
And yet it’s also widely tolerated. The insidious issue is played out across the country on a daily basis, when mostly small and medium-sized firms who tend not to have HR departments not only ignore the LAW, but also get away with doing so. The details of individual cases may vary, but the result is the same: women who do no worse than choose to continue our species are left out in the cold by their employers.
In many circumstances, those guilty of direct – but implicit – discriminatory practices and behaviours appear to be entirely fearless. And is it any wonder when the law is technically on their side? The spirit of the law is that these situations should not be occurring, but the reality is that they do, because they can’t be proven.
I’m incredulous that there are both men and women in our developed country who think nothing of applying immense pressure on pregnant women, and in doing so cause them great stress. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely appreciate that pregnancy is not a disease and should not be treated as such (unless of course there is an associated illness). But whether the pregnancy is progressing with or without complications, when is it ever acceptable to cause these women to miss important appointments/refuse to pay them properly/bully or harass them (the list goes on)?
In the UK, when a company feels like it, apparently.
It is a serious concern because by allowing this to go on in spite of legislation to prevent it, society passively condones it.
Most people are almost reverential in their regard for pregnant women – and that’s as it should be. Whilst there’s no requirement for special allowances in terms of promotion either legally or morally (of course!), there’s undeniably a need for special consideration of physical needs – and up to a point emotional needs too. These women should be supported; they should never be persecuted.
So used am I to observing and receiving chivalry from The Generic Gentleman in his various guises – my husband/father/brothers/the guy in the shop/stranger on the bus/the postman – that I genuinely struggle to comprehend any other attitude in men. Yet they exist; indeed, they’re functioning people in possession of all their faculties; and there are many of them.
While they may well be financially secure, I will never consider them to be successful until they appreciate and embrace the basic concept of respecting and valuing pregnant women – and absolutely do not take advantage of or intimidate them.
These men have mothers, wives, daughters; I am not speaking in generic terms – I know some of these men have families. And thus it confounds me that they are able to pass over women for promotion/bonuses/contribution in meetings, simply on the basis of their pregnancy/maternity status. And not only that, but sadly in some circumstances actively seek to dismiss/strongly encourage resignation too. In Britain; in 2015. Culturally in terms of child-bearing, it seems we’re going backwards, not forwards. This does not make Britain ‘Great’ – it makes Britain shameful.
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I would like to take this opportunity to point out to those ‘encouraging’ stay at home mothers back into work: fix this discriminatory problem and I would wager it would go a long way towards fixing your problem too.
Case in Point
Take my friend; we’ll call her Sally. Sally worked hard at her new company for a year before falling pregnant with her first child. Not only did her manager second guess the pregnancy on the basis of two medical appointments early on in the first trimester, he then told the MD of his suspicions – before making an unsolicited promise to Sally that he would keep the information to himself.
Subsequently, Sally was reprimanded for under-performing in a sales capacity. When she stood firm in her assertion that she was not a salesperson which she had made clear at her initial interview, she was asked to move her desk into what was essentially an unventilated store cupboard. This was in the height of summer, by which time Sally was heavily pregnant. She took advice from ACAS and put in a request to remain at her current desk. When the MD called her into his office to discuss the matter, she was verbally abused and bawled at for her excessive demands; lack of effort; and underperformance. The MD threatened to cut her pay by a third and told her explicitly that she was ‘not earning her keep’.
When accusations were made of customer complaints about her attitude, Sally was utterly bemused and perplexed. The MD threatened to bring her manager in to explain the allegations, clearly anticipating Sally would concede her wrongdoings; however, she encouraged the MD. Her manager was unable to defend the claims he had made against her and the MD cooled down. Alas, this was temporary…
Not only did Sally encounter intimidating aggression from her MD, she also faced fabrications from her manager who was trying to save his own neck. Unfortunately, given the extreme nature of the meeting, Sally was left with no alternative but to begin her maternity leave with immediate effect.
Given the degree of hostility levied towards her, Sally chose to raise a grievance. And this is where legislation falls down: the company had no impartial authority to oversee the procedure. Essentially, Sally raised a grievance against her MD, and her MD was in the smug position of handling her complaint; which he naturally rejected. Even if she had chosen to pursue her case at tribunal (which would have cost her), she had a very slim chance of winning – because for fear of losing their jobs too, other staff lied in their ‘evidence’. In the meantime, Sally was worrying about an emergency induction and a poorly, premature baby.
Which inevitably meant family became a priority, while justice became a luxury that could not be justified in any capacity.
Update: I’m Sally.
When I wrote this it was still very raw and I had concerns about the legal implications of being totally frank. As things stand today, I don’t. I was treated appallingly and I’m not ashamed to be open about that.
Credit where it’s due, I also have that horrendous time of my life to thank for this blog, which I’d never have started if I’d had a job to return to!
So What Can You Do if You Find Yourself in This Situation?
Sadly, there is very little to be done as things stand. Businesses know their legal obligations, and provided they remain inside of the law – or at least ensure there is no possible way to prove otherwise – they’re safe. So, my best piece of advice?
Should you be planning to have a child in the near future, ensure the company you work for is pro family. And if they’re not? Find one that is. I wish I could say different but with current employment laws in force, you will not win this war.
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