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10 Ways to Wash Your Toddler’s Hair Sans Tears and Tantrums

When it comes to parenting there are many poignant milestones to experience and, if you’re lucky, capture on film to immortalise forever. Such things as first words; first steps; first day out of nappies – with no accidents. And then there are those other milestones, you know the ones, I like to call them ‘rites of passage’. These include your first mega vom; your first poonami; your first poonami away from home in the most inconvenient place possible, by yourself, on the one occasion you forgot to replace the wipes (it was hellish, I’ll never forget it). And your first hairwashing induced meltdown. But how on earth can you wash your toddler’s hair without tears and tantrums?

I’m yet to discover a small child who actively enjoys having their locks lathered, the universal sound of which – akin to fighting off a would-be murderer – is unmistakable!

So for the sake of your sanity and your eardrums, I’ve compiled a list of tried and tested coiffure cleaning hacks…


How to Wash Your Toddler’s Hair Without Tears

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1. Foam Conditioner

This was a game changer for us, and it occurred by accident. The typical toddler, Pixie hated having her hair washed. After attending an event where I was given some lovely products, I was using the nearest conditioner to hand one day and Pixie happened to love it. I can’t say I blame her because it’s a lovely foamy one and I can’t deny there’s something very moreish about smushing it between your fingers! Anyway, Pixie now looks forward to her hair washes, because she knows she’ll get a handful to play with. It’s not cheap, but it’s totally worth it.


2. Wash Dolls Hair

Half the battle is distraction and keeping them calm, and this idea encourages play – and specifically an opportunity to act out their fear on the doll, hopefully thereby eliminating it.


3. Stand Them Up

Sometimes a different perspective is all that’s required! By getting them on their feet and using the shower hose they’ll hopefully feel a little more in control, which in turn will help them relax.


4. Bath Crayons

This one is simply about making bathtime fun! It may not be an active solution to the problem itself, but in some cases the promise of drawing all over the bath may be enough of an incentive (okay, bribe) for them to allow you to wash their hair without pinning them down.

Does your little one hate having their hair washed, particukarly the water going in their eyes? Check out these top 10 tips to wash your toddler's hair without tears! Bathtime can be made fun again with these clever and novel ideas to take away the fear of hairwashing. Clever hacks for no more tears.

I also asked some fellow bloggers for their top tips…


5. Have a Spa!

I get her to hold the shower head herself so she can control where the water goes, (with a little guidance!) it a) distracts her and b) puts her in control in her mind. We also play ‘hair salon’ where I ask her about her day and where she’s going on holiday! It only works if I address her formally as if she really were a client and I didn’t know her well enough to use her first name, putting on a foreign accent to immerse myself into the role fully seems to really help too, so far I’ve tried French, German and Russian!Pink Pear Bear


6. Wear Goggles / Use a Visor

My daughter wears her swimming goggles. She loves them and now asks to have her hair washed.And Another Ten Things

‘Wear goggles for the fringe.’ Baby Budgeting

Not necessarily long hair based but autism makes hair washing very stressful hear. We use a bath visor and cups held over the ears. We then use 3 jugs to wet and 5 jugs to rinse and count down, so that he knows how long is left.’ Someone’s Mum

Using a visor can help or my two used to love the novelty of wearing goggles!Hello Baby Blog

Wash your toddler's hair without tears


7. Maintain Eye Contact

My daughters hated having their hairs washed but now are ok with it as it’s our one on one time. They sit and look up at me in the bath while I stand over them keeping eye contact and asking about their day, what they have enjoyed and what treat they can have for supper when we are finished. It keeps them focussed and their heads back – hair washed in no time and a little bonding never hurt.’ Country Heart and Home

My daughter has a special hair washing song! We put Bohemian Rhapsody on every time we wash her hair and she sings along! (Inspired by the line “look up in the sky” to get her to tilt her head back) she’s still not a great fan of having her hair washed but the song helps to distract her!My Mummy’s Pennies


8. Measure Hair Length

‘Seeing how far down her back she can make her hair reach while I rinse it – that keeps her head right back while she concentrates on the challenge.’ Going on an Adventure


9. Wash Each Other’s Hair

I find washing each other’s at the same time helps. So she’ll have a cup to poor water over my head and I’ll have one to do hers. Great distraction and she finds it hilarious as I make lots of splashy noises!’ Mummy in a Tutu


10. ‘Magic’ Flannel (a twist on the classic Face Flannel)

Rian hasn’t got long hair, but he has a “magic flannel” to put on his face while we rinse his hair so water doesn’t run down his face…’ Mumzilla

When my daughter was small she used to be scared of the water going in her eyes. It never did, but it worried her, so I used to get her to hold a dry, folded flannel over her eyes, which kept her calm. It’s always worth finding out what it is about the process that bothers them. Sometimes letting them have some control, such as putting the shampoo on themselves, can help. Oh, and, maybe let them choose their own shampoo, if possible.’ The Parent Game

So there you have it – our top tips for how to wash your toddler’s hair without tears or tantrums! Do you have any other novel suggestions that aren’t on the list?





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