[Ad] The purpose of these steps is, essentially, to create a healthy mindset, which allows you to be happier and more positive, and generally improves our wellbeing. But right off the bat, let’s qualify that simple does not equal easy. These steps are not complicated to understand, but neither are they easy to implement/accomplish.
They’re worth it though.
What is a Healthy Mindset?
A healthy mindset is one which allows you room to grow and be happy, instead of keeping you stuck in cycles of negativity. By their very nature, we cannot control our thoughts and, therefore, we all have ones that logically we may disapprove of.
It’s important to identify, process, and accept our thoughts and feelings – without judgement. We shouldn’t beat ourselves up for having uncharitable thoughts; they’re natural. The challenge is to acknowledge that they’re not healthy or beneficial, and let them go.
How to Attain a Healthy Mindset
This process is not necessarily easy to complete, but working through the steps will help you to achieve a healthier mindset and change your life for the better.
1. Give the Benefit of the Doubt
Judging – we all do it. It’s only with experience that we begin to appreciate the nuances of life, and that there’s often more to a situation than meets the eye. Instincts and first impressions are vital to our survival – but they’re not always accurate.
Be gracious – give people the benefit of the doubt until you’re given a reason not to.
2. Stop Complaining
This is a tricky one! But it’s also incredibly powerful.
Try it for a day and I guarantee you’ll be surprised at how habitually you complain. Stop yourself each time you notice that urge, and see how your day improves.
3. Be Kind, and Mean It
When the #BeKind movement began, I was passionate about it. I’m a great believer in simply being good to those around you if you can afford to be – not just financially, but also in terms of your time and emotions.
Sadly its message has been lost as the movement became a bandwagon for empty words and hollow intentions.
That doesn’t mean you can’t practice the authentic meaning behind the concept; social media posts optional.
One of the most powerful ways you can improve your own wellbeing is by forgiving those who’ve hurt you in the past. This can be extremely difficult in some cases, but the opposite to forgiveness is bitterness, which is toxic and the antithesis of a healthy mindset.
Keep in mind that forgiving is not for the benefit of the person who hurt you, but for your own. They do not need to know about it, and it is not the same as clemency. Forgiveness simply means letting go of negative feelings which are harmful to a healthy mindset.
These posts may help with how to forgive:
5. Let Go of Prejudices
Prejudices are similar to judgements, except they’re formed with no basis beyond a specific set of ‘rules’, such as a person’s age, race, or gender. Merely growing up within a given culture sadly makes it inevitable that we all harbour unconscious biases.
But, it’s within our power to challenge ourselves and those around us about prejudice.
The most positive way to do this is by making peace with their existence, whilst consciously beginning to appraise and question our thoughts and feelings in these areas.
How to Maintain a Healthy Mindset
As I’ve spoken about many times, journaling is a great way to identify, clarify, and process thoughts and feelings. It can help with all of the above steps, by giving you a place to jot down ideas, triggers, and potential solutions.
Ultimately it can help you to reframe your mindset, and that’s what we’re trying to accomplish.
These posts have more information about how journaling can help create a healthy and positive mindset:
Why not check out our beautiful wellbeing and positivity journal, which includes four mini gifts to help with the next step too:
My Positivity Project Wellbeing Journal
All of these steps come apart at the seams if you don’t look after yourself holistically. As well as caring for your emotional and mental wellbeing, it’s important to have a balanced diet, carve out time to exercise, relax, connect with others, and be creative.
It’s also a really great idea to block out time alone – and if you don’t enjoy your own company, find a way to get comfortable with it. It’s exhilarating – and necessary to work through all of these steps.
We all have room for improvement, and having a clear and attainable goal provides positive focus. This may take the form of learning a new skill, charity work, or being more environmentally aware.
By striving to be a better version of yourself, you create motivation, drive, and a sense of purpose.
All of this is within your reach, you simply have to make the choice to start. One of my favourite quotes is:
The moment you accept responsibility for everything in your life, is the moment you gain the power to change anything in your life.Hal Elrod